Loyalty will keep you “down”. It sabotages you and your results so you do not overpass somebody. It may be your mother, your father, your friend.
You may gain weight, you may lose weight, you may avoid social interactions, you may fail an exam or be not accepted for a new job or contract. You may deny yourself a pet, a wife, a husband or a child.
So you will not overpass the “other” person.
It looks like you do not want to offend them – if you know that having a wife is everything the other person (seem to) wants and they don’t (seem to) get it – or to diminish their self-esteem – if they believe they are the smartest, the strongest or the most beautiful, although you know it’s not true, you are still holding this “frame” for them. You may also be sorry they can’t come with you, so you will not “go” either.
No matter the reason, “they” are the dead-line for you. The end. The stop. The rock, the block.
However though, they’re NOT.
The “obstacle”, the “other” person is YOU.
There is someone inside you who does not accept the “getting”, the “receiving”, the new “being”.
They – the “you” inside – are your competitor.
Loyalty doesn’t exist. Forget about it, and talk to the “other” person inside you. They hide a story, and they are “dying” to tell it. Be the listener. Be interested, show benevolence. This “person” has been there for a period, they’ve seen some things you’re not (currently) aware of, and they need to “pass” quietly, to free themselves from those feelings. Listen to them. Carefully. Openly. And then move on to your new heart-felt, waiting-for experience.
(ps the “other” person will just go away.)
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