You don’t need to forgive others. All you need* is to forgive yourself.
(*you actually don’t need anything, you might just want to have your existing experience changed, do something different, maybe better – better being a very personal word as well)
Forgiveness is not necessary as not you, nor everybody else, had ever wronged. It is all an experience. And you are now ready for a new one – let’s try it again.
Whenever you forgive others, you are left with the “blame” – you were week, you didn’t make your point, compassion is not everything, something should have been done to redeem yourself … you seemed to be weak, unfulfilled, not whole.
When forgiving yourself, you actually focus on that feeling – and thought: “I was weak”, “I could have been done more”, “I shouldn’t have done that”, “I should have loved myself more”. You name it.
Engulfed in the feeling that fulfills you the most, you are then able to see, and feel, how changing those precise dynamics, how giving more, how loving more, how taking care of you more, is changing, and could have changed, your entire experience, and how, miraculously, “the others” change in your meditation as well. They become more enlightened, they fade away, they send you love, or they become your friends. They may even send you their love, understanding and caring. In the end, it is a new world.
Immerse yourself more, let that feeling, everything you see that is positive, caring, loving, supporting, heal you. Absorb it. With your every cell. Let it be, let it go. The more you stay “in this experience”, the more it changes your perception for good. And you will know what to do when – and if – you are (ever going to be) upset again. You suddenly understand how your perception of the world – your beliefs – how giving to you more of what you have been missing all along, changes your dynamics, your reality, your vibration for good.
How “I should love myself more” – or whatever other discovery you might have made – kicks in every time you start feeling discomfort, and how the solution, if you want it, have been with you all the way. Just simply “love yourself more”.
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